Sex is like boxing.

Consent is Necessary

Last week when we posted a blog about consent, we didn’t realize it would jump to the national forefront thanks to a certain presidential candidate showing that rape culture is still alive and kicking.  Twitter had to revive the hashtag #YESALLWOMEN because groping and harassment happen to pretty much all women.  This isn’t about politics, it is about women being able to live unharassed and in peace.

@kellyoxford jumpstarted the conversation with this tweet and created #notokay to highlight issues.

Women: tweet me your first assaults. they aren’t just stats. I’ll go first:

Old man on city bus grabs my “pussy” and smiles at me, I’m 12.

@kellyoxford

Five days later she tweeted:

Day 5: Every minute, people still tweeting me stories of their first sexual assault. I’ve read them. You are stronger than u think.

Reading through her feed is depressing in how commonplace this is.  Consent is an important issue and must be addressed, and specifically Affirmative Consent as we mentioned in the previous post.  Teach your children about consent.  Talk with your partner about consent.  Think about your mother, sister, wife, daughters, co-workers, and friends who may have had this happen to them and work to make the world a safer place for everyone, because not only women are affected by this, but they are bearing the brunt of it.

 

 

Consent is Sexy

If you were a product of the Texas public school system then you probably had very little to no sex ed.  I remember, very vaguely, a seminar during PE when I was in Jr. High.  I remember taking a health class in high school, but not a single thing of what that class pertained to.  This being Texas there was probably a focus on abstinence and the dangers of having sex.

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via Giphy

Unfortunately, no one ever talked about consent.  This is a very important topic that needs to be discussed and Stanford recently announced that all new and transferring students will be required to attend a program entitled, “Beyond Sex Ed: Consent & Sexuality at Stanford.”

The new program is one of several educational initiatives designed to engage incoming Stanford students in conversations about the need for affirmative consent, the reality of sexual violence on campus and the collection of resources available to all students.

Hopefully, this will lead to more universities discussing consent as part of the intake process.  However, it would help if high schools or middle schools would begin the discussion.  As the below image shows, consent doesn’t have to be about just sex, it is about respecting other people’s boundaries.

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Anything we can do to improve sex education is needed, and that includes discussions about consent.  Dreamers is committed to destigmatizing sex and discussions about sex. We are about sex positivity and that begins with positive affirmation for consent.

As Last Week with John Oliver pointed out last year, we need to do better about talking to our young adults about sex.  The clip is long but so worth it.

 

Because sex is like boxing, if one of the parties didn’t agree to participate, the other one is committing a crime.  — John Oliver

Bravo Stanford, here’s hoping more Universities join your ranks.  Let us know some of your sex-ed horror stories in the comments below.